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[dull boy]

Originally Posted by veritas

Yes. When I was a kid I was drugged and molested by an older kid.

How would you say this has impacted your view of sexuality?

[veritas]

Originally Posted by dull boy

How would you say this has impacted your view of sexuality?

My own or in general or both?

[dull boy]

Originally Posted by veritas

My own or in general or both?

Both.

[veritas]

Originally Posted by dull boy

Both.

Ok that’s fair.

Individually: In the beginning it messed me up. I was filled with rage towards dude and self attacking thoughts i.e. am i gay because this happened? do my friends think I am lame? Etc. after a few months the emotional component declined and settled below the surface. As the years went on I realized things. Such as: I did not ask for that to happen or want it to. I also did not enjoy it. I also started liking girls. As an adult, I have been happily married for a decade and have never given serious consideration to having sex with a man. I have also found the working through and accepting that it happened of tremendous benefit to my shadow self integration.

As for in general, I try to not put my own personal history with the act as a blanket over all gay people, I also try to understand that those desires are in some people. I debate whether people are born that way and I say that it is not for me, I try to understand their perspective but it ain’t for me. In terms of Christianity, I tell them that it is between them and God. I won’t preach to you as long as you don’t tell me that God is ok with it. But to balance it, I am much more concerned with the failure of heterosexual marriages in our culture than the gay marriage agenda.

I hope this answers your question.