anyone divorced in here????

[Witty]

I'm never getting married.

I'm cool with being in a long term relationship, I actually enjoy it a lot, but marriage is bullshit through and through.

[veritas]

Originally Posted by Witty

I'm never getting married.

I'm cool with being in a long term relationship, I actually enjoy it a lot, but marriage is bullshit through and through.

I disagree.

[Witty]

Originally Posted by VERITAS

I disagree.

Ok.

I just don't understand how getting married has a positive effect on a relationship, if you love someone then just be with them, you can do all of the same things without having to sign a contract.`

[veritas]

Originally Posted by Witty

Ok.

I just don't understand how getting married has a positive effect on a relationship, if you love someone then just be with them, you can do all of the same things without having to sign a contract.`

if we are going to do this we must first establish a great truth: the separation of what marriage is supposed to be, and what it currently is in todays time. fair?

[Witty]

Originally Posted by VERITAS

if we are going to do this we must first establish a great truth: the separation of what marriage is supposed to be, and what it currently is in todays time. fair?

Fair.

Elab.

[Dominate]

Originally Posted by Witty

Ok.

I just don't understand how getting married has a positive effect on a relationship, if you love someone then just be with them, you can do all of the same things without having to sign a contract.`

I disagree from an entirely non-religious perspective.

I don't think it should change the relationship at all and I don't think a "contract" or any sort of legal certificate is necessary, but I think that having a relationship with someone that's good enough that you're sure you want that person to be your life partner is worthy of a celebration with friends and fam.

[Witty]

Originally Posted by Dominate

I disagree from an entirely non-religious perspective.

I don't think it should change the relationship at all and I don't think a "contract" or any sort of legal certificate is necessary, but I think that having a relationship with someone that's good enough that you're sure you want that person to be your life partner is worthy of a celebration with friends and fam.

So have the celebration, there's no need to make it a legal thing, which is what marriage is.

It's a legally binding contract...that is pointless imo.

[Blanco Bishop]

Marriage, in today's world, is as much a business partnership as anything else that it can b.

[Dominate]

Originally Posted by Witty

So have the celebration, there's no need to make it a legal thing, which is what marriage is.

It's a legally binding contract...that is pointless imo.

Not sure how the law operates in Ireland or the US but in Australia being married doesn't give a partner any entitlements that they didn't already have as a de facto in case of divorce.

[sral]

Originally Posted by Witty

So have the celebration, there's no need to make it a legal thing, which is what marriage is.

It's a legally binding contract...that is pointless imo.

it's not pointless imho

there are a few reasons why that wont apply to you NOW but may in the future

say you're an unmarried couple, living together, with seperate bank accounts

if one of you dies - the money in that account becomes property of your partners estate, it cant be withdrawn until their estate is settled

you may struggle paying for the funeral on your own seeing as the most basic cost £4-4500 now

its fairly morbid to think of the eventuality, but it happens

next lets say 'nationality'

depending on when the childs born, where the parents were born, and their immigration status at the time the child was born - AND THE PARENTS BEING MARRIED - this can have huge implications years later on the childs nationality as a result (say an asian family, child born in India, wanting to become a British citizen) the hoops they have to jump through are unbelievable

without boring the board with the work i do, trust me, those are two of the most important

the last i would like to add from a purely none legal perspective, is that marriage offers great benefits in terms of being associated with lower mortality risk, experience less depression, increases likelihood of affluence and greater sexual satisfaction

[sral]

Originally Posted by Witty

I'm never getting married.

I'm cool with being in a long term relationship, I actually enjoy it a lot, but marriage is bullshit through and through.

i'm with @VERITAS here

getting married this year for definate

fixing dates with venue/hotels atm

i hear back at 2:30pm this afternoon yo

wish me luck my irish bredrin :)

[Witty]

Originally Posted by sraL

i'm with @VERITAS here

getting married this year for definate

fixing dates with venue/hotels atm

i hear back at 2:30pm this afternoon yo

wish me luck my irish bredrin :)

Best of luck my dude, hope it all goes well.

I'm not saying marriage can't be a good thing, I just don't think it's essential for a relationship but I'm guessing it's kinda cool to have a wife and be all like 'yo this my wife' so I'm not completely against it, I just don't know if it's for me...I'm young tho, and stupid, so I may be talking out of my ass lol

g'luck tho for real.