Privacy in marriage

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Originally Posted by Diode

i don't go through her stuff and she doesn't go through mine.

if either feels the need to, there is no trust in the relationship.

this. just be honest with her and confront her. tell her that you don't feel comfortable with how things are right now, set parameters, and be flexible about the parameters she sets. if you're reasonable about it and she trips out, there's likely a problem. it's natural to feel insecurities, but indulging them won't solve anything.

think of it this way: if you scour her phone and all that and find nothing, will you be satisfied? what if she erased the stuff she didn't want you to see? the point being, you can't prove she didn't do anything; you can only prove what someone did.