My new girl hates how much time I spend using my left brain

[Badweather]

Which Ironically is aware of patterns and is analytical. She says I'm cold sometimes, and doesn't feel like I'm listening. I told her that I've heard it in the past, and that this will keep being brought up until she's fed up and wants to move on. She hit me with the "oh so you're a fucking psychic now? Don't compare me to your last girlfriend, we're totally different people. I'm just communicating with you, so you understand and we can move on. "

I was like "I'm not psychic but this is the second time this topic has come up. The only way we learn is from our past. I understand you and my past girlfriends are different but it's the same pattern. If a brown cat hunches it's back, hisses at me and bites me, should I totally ignore those warning signs with a new white cat, simply because the cats are different? I'm not psychic, let's just stay on the topic that you think I'm cold sometimes, and it's not even something I decide to be. "

Then she doesn't want to talk about it anymore. No more fighting she says.


Smh. I thought things were fucking grand.

[dyedinthewool]

Do you not expect for it to come up at all and ever again though? It's the aspect of a relationship that matters most, communication. & her saying she ain't like the rest is a risk she's taking just by having said that. She's either up for the challenge because you're worth the mess or she won't break. Which is an entire issue altogether.

I hope you work things out though, my two cents are only my two cents but I hope that if she's worth it you start to use all portions of your brain :)

[Ghost1]

Seadad datimg a white girl? Typical.

[Answer]

It's a self fulfilling prophecy. Your relationship is destined for failure because you believe it is. Learn to go with the flow and not fixate on your insecurities so much

[Badweather]

My ex, who was black said the same shit. This chick is Moroccan, looks white and Spanish. But yeah she's white. But yeah dyed, I hear you, but it's kind of impossible to changemy ppersonality. I can change things like asking more questions when she talks about shit, or keeping my shoes away from the bed cause she trips over them when she gets up to pee at night, but to totally shift an unconscious way of thinking? I don't know about that. I've been this way since I was born. It's as natural as blinking.

If she decides to go, she'll be added to a list of many who preceded her. All Ican do is keep oit moving.

[PancakeBrah]

I don't care about your problems.

[Ghost1]

Woah! Pancake spends one of his 5daily posts early on in the game!

Itll be interesting ti see what he does with the remaining 4!!!

[veritas]

VERITAS POST #1/5


PHIL: the difference between mysterious and cold. Shift your relational paradigm. Stop the self deception and then you will stop seeing others as objects to fuel your own lies.....

Anthony: good morning friend.

[Ghost1]

U only posting 5 times today too?

Good idea. The board will benefit greatly.

[veritas]

Originally Posted by Bags

U only posting 5 times today too?

Good idea. The board will benefit greatly.

does your apartment's drapes still smell like gammy>?

[Ghost1]

Does ur basement still smell like action dolls?

[Badweather]

Come what may when you're not in love.

[Badweather]

Originally Posted by El Pancake

I don't care about your problems.

I'm not asking you to care. All are welcome to read and respond though.

[Wise Wiggles]

Bitches are smot humans

[Geno]

damn, didnt know shit was getting rough with her man. sorry bro -hopefully it works its way out. and it will, one way or the other. need to get up soon. perhaps this weekend

[Diode]

this thread was turning around with bags/veritas but here we are

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[Chyeahhh!!!]

Its hard not to like you weather.

[Badweather]

Originally Posted by Chyeahhh Guevara

Its hard not to like you weather.

lol, i'm totally oblivious to what's pissing her off, 'cause i seriously wasn't trying to. thanks for the vote of confidence chyeahhh!