Godam it amen.
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Chill Phil
Just be you man. The same kind person you would be to a fully grown person.
Show her your not afraid to engage here and she herself will give you the opportunities to act like a a father figure to her.
I'm my honest opinion your doing fine. The kids talks to you acknowledges you. Your in. Now just build that relationship up as much as you can.
The only you got going against you is that as a "stepdad" you have always work, never give up trying to be her father. That's the end goal right? So that she's you asa father?
Your doing fine Phil. Take her to the zoo, have one on one convos with her. Those are important. My kids always surprise me with the little things they remember.