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Originally Posted by c.d.m.
The trick is to find out what level the person you are talking to is on, and then just be half a level higher.....you pull them up. dig?
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TRUTH bro.
as you know, it's what I respect about your approach the most, since it's an area I'm working on. I share your affinity and even some of your savvy in psychology, metaphysics, spirituality -- but when I try to help someone, I jump into the deep-end, and you are much more effective at "jumping to their end" then guiding them along the way.
Interestingly, i created the habit of 'jumping into the deep end' because I believed what you already know - I believed I would 'set an extreme end-point' for the individual to reach at their time, in their pace.... What I didn't realize was that I actually, in some cases, inhibited their progress because I overwhelmed them by "going to deep" when they were trying to get comfortable in the shallows.
It's the page in your book I most admire, since it's the one my current chapter is lacking. I recognize the big picture, but am not near as effective at guiding others to see it --- it is why you are (1) more adept at establishing rapport (to another point you made), and (2) MORE CONCISE.
But, I do recognize my pattern, so I'll change it. In fact, I recognize that the way you are already helping knucklehead vs. how my braindump perfectly reflects the differences I'm talking about haha. Even if the end points are the same, the line will be drawn more effectively by "being a half level further than they are now".
Very astute brotha.