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anime_boners - 3rd time now; No, of course it isn't gay. But I've seen men who are as straight as an arrow with cross-dressing fetishes. That isn't gay either. But that's irrelevant, because there's only one other instance where a man dresses up as a woman - have a guess when?
Thus, when walking down a street as a grown ass man in a dress, heels and make-up, you're going to be called gay for the simple fact that what you're doing is what gay men do and associate with, regardless of your heterosexuality and cross dressing fetish.
Men who enjoy having their anus inserted with objects regardless of whether it's from a woman or not, is an activity that relates primarily to one other sexual activity prevalent among homosexuals.
No amount of explaining a man's heterosexuality will justify such activity, whether he is aware of it or not.
Gay - no. Weird, slightly disturbing - yes.