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uh-oh 04-19-2014 04:46 PM

how do you deal with people who WRONGED you
 
i usually hit them in the head alot

but that cycle of interactions just lead to more mental pain

lets say someone you know has WRONGED you, and you want to beat them to death, how do you STOP it from circling and controlling your thoughts?

for the past few hours since learning of this SLIGHT upon my honor, i can't stop thinking about it and i don't know how to stop this cycle of thoughts. its my day off, i wanna get stoned and relax and just fuck off

but i can't get high with this mindset because i will just dwell in my internal misery

how do you guys deal with shit mentally?

@veritas to thread

talk me down bro

Strikta 04-19-2014 04:48 PM

Let it slide.

For now.

Catch em on the rebound.

Don't forget.

Revenge is sweet.

uh-oh 04-19-2014 05:02 PM

word im saying, how do you let it slide and not be overwhelmed with feelings of wackness

like im trying to just get my mind off it so i can let it slide lol

dyedinthewool 04-19-2014 05:03 PM

smoke a bowl, order in and watch movies with your baby king chihuahua gawd and eat gummie worms.

TYSON 04-19-2014 05:03 PM

Keep them at a safe distance. Let it slide and wait for that eye for an eye moment.

Strikta 04-19-2014 05:05 PM

Just smoke an L bro.

oats 04-19-2014 05:22 PM

occupy your mind with something else. read a book, watch a movie. if it's overpowering and you can't stop thinking about it, you have to write it out. or talk about it with someone, just something to release it.

ill nik-A 04-19-2014 05:28 PM

I write bro

I got demons that'll knock niggaz the fuck out

Just Write 04-19-2014 05:33 PM

Nah just go fuck em up. You'll feel better yo

uh-oh 04-19-2014 05:35 PM

word i can't really be vague i guess

i gave my pops 100 to get groceries. i told him we gotta make this last like 2 weeks i don't care if we eat hot dogs and beans every night, just hook it up. i usually give him like 60 a week and he hooks shit up.

well basically im putting groceries away and i see he spent 58 dollars at the grocery store on the receipt. he also went to the dollar store to get a big thing of coffee, sugar, and trashbags. which im guessing can't be more than 15 dollars.

so there is 25 missing. if he asked me for it i wouldve gave it to him. but he didnt. and he lied to my face about it and made up elaborate stories.

like apparently he seen his old friend carla at the grocery store and he's basically telling me a story about how good he looks for his age, cuz everyone he knows looks old and ragged.

so i'm already putting two and two together. this old nigga went to the bar wtf

well than he's talking like "yea i dont know how i do it, when i got to the register its like 85 dollars and i had 87" which he usually does, he talks about how he spent almost exactly the amount i've given him.

but word basically he lied right there cuz i seen it said 58 on the receipt

once again if he just asked for 20 to go to the bar, its his. but don't lie to me.

i feel bad for him. he sits in this house for weeks on end watching the same dvd's over and over, so im glad he got to get out and shit

its the lying that is killing me

i can't confront him, even in a friendly way like "hey bro its all good" way. if i confront him and he lies i will kill him. if he does the opposite and acts shamed like yea man sorry, it will kill ME.

so im basically just gonna try and forget this happened

and not be lazy and cop groceries myself.

i just feel bad tho because i see myself in his lying self, and all the years i played him from a teen on up

dyedinthewool 04-19-2014 05:44 PM

Yes forget it. He's your pops always remember that. Occupying your mind with something else right now would be the best thing you can do. Don't confront him about it and just do the groceries next time with him and the following time alone so he doesn't start to even wonder. That's rough but I imagine you care enough because you mentioned it would upset you if he lied again and it would kill you if he was honest. I'd never want to make my dad feel shameful when we're so used to being the shameful ones as kids
@uh-oh

Three-Planes-Aligned 04-19-2014 05:48 PM

If you instant replay events in your mind repeatedly you will manifest helplessness (and taking to violence to reclaim control will seem all the more tempting).

Say to yourself "Hm, so this is how I think/feel" knowing that an emotion is a feather in the wind as far as informing actions goes. Remind yourself that this person has his history making his actions if not excusable at least logically understandable.

ill nik-A 04-19-2014 06:19 PM

Forget it


It is what it is

Ghost1 04-19-2014 06:42 PM

Shewww uh oh bout to beat his pops to death over a 20 spot.. lol.

Man....it's already gotta be demeaning enuff to get sent to the grocery store by ur own son with an allowance to spend....Let alone the thought of having to ask for additional loot to get sum drinks.

Let that old nigga LIVE yo.

He will be working again soon enuff.

Witty 04-19-2014 06:44 PM

I usually remove them from my life.

It is not always possible tho.

Witty 04-19-2014 06:48 PM

Put it in the back of your mind and let it eat away at your brain until your general demeanor becomes sullen and withered.

Nah but for real, I would just say 'fuck did you steal my money for?'

No point fucking around about it, just call him out and use words instead of killing him, but get an honest answer out of him and then chill the fuck out.

oats 04-19-2014 06:52 PM

Settle it in the BA. Sometimes you gotta flex on the old man.

Witty 04-19-2014 06:54 PM

dead.

might be good for activity tho.

veritas 04-19-2014 07:24 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by uh-oh (Post 322470)
word i can't really be vague i guess

i gave my pops 100 to get groceries. i told him we gotta make this last like 2 weeks i don't care if we eat hot dogs and beans every night, just hook it up. i usually give him like 60 a week and he hooks shit up.

well basically im putting groceries away and i see he spent 58 dollars at the grocery store on the receipt. he also went to the dollar store to get a big thing of coffee, sugar, and trashbags. which im guessing can't be more than 15 dollars.

so there is 25 missing. if he asked me for it i wouldve gave it to him. but he didnt. and he lied to my face about it and made up elaborate stories.

like apparently he seen his old friend carla at the grocery store and he's basically telling me a story about how good he looks for his age, cuz everyone he knows looks old and ragged.

so i'm already putting two and two together. this old nigga went to the bar wtf

well than he's talking like "yea i dont know how i do it, when i got to the register its like 85 dollars and i had 87" which he usually does, he talks about how he spent almost exactly the amount i've given him.

but word basically he lied right there cuz i seen it said 58 on the receipt

once again if he just asked for 20 to go to the bar, its his. but don't lie to me.

i feel bad for him. he sits in this house for weeks on end watching the same dvd's over and over, so im glad he got to get out and shit

its the lying that is killing me

i can't confront him, even in a friendly way like "hey bro its all good" way. if i confront him and he lies i will kill him. if he does the opposite and acts shamed like yea man sorry, it will kill ME.

so im basically just gonna try and forget this happened

and not be lazy and cop groceries myself.

i just feel bad tho because i see myself in his lying self, and all the years i played him from a teen on up


the last sentence of your post is where you need to start sir.

Split 04-19-2014 07:47 PM

I post their noodz online


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