Telling the truth sucks.
 

One of my boys has been dating this chick for like 2 years. I had a thing with her 10 years ago. We just casually hooked up and it wasn't anything special. I never thought I needed to explain what happened because he never asked and it's been a decade. Few nights ago they got into it about me so he came over to hash it out with me. I told him the truth. His bitch had a boyfriend at the time and I fucked her and they broke up. I have worked with her off and on for ten years since and even tho we're not friends anymore, I never had any emotion to her either way. She hasn't cared for me since, whether that's been me not really liking her like that or her just deciding she hates me for whatever reason. Either way, I kept my distance especially since my homies been dating her. But apparently the bitch lied to him like we never hooked up, so now he believes her and thinks I'm lying.

I wouldn't be upset if this wasn't like a REALLY good friend. Should I have just lied to keep my friend?

Who gives a fuck yo.

10 years ago

He lame for feeling some type of way about it

/end thread

Facts.

Yeah I’ve been in your sistuation a few times

A nigga will always feel some type of way about it, end result always the same

lmao I'd be more insulted I had Finny's sloppy seconds if I were him tbh

delete.

Idk, bro. If it's my boy I'm telling him day one (standard protocol) to avoid any potential situations, fallouts or fights in the future. The blow would have been much softer had you told him that before he chose to wife the chick and parade her around like the Virgin Marry. Now he's most likely lookin and feelin dumb as fuck cause you stained and soiled his would-be-bride. It's cool that you piped. Shit like that happens. But don't wait 2 years-in to tell your friend. Now he has to backtrack every glance and interaction you ever shared with his girl and question your loyalty and trustworthiness. Forget what anyone else is saying. If your boy and you smashed the same girl it's whatever. But I'm sure he wouldn't normally go and cuff something that his guy has already seen, felt and sampled. However, if he so happended to anyway (after knowing the facts) that's on him. No big deal. But don't keep it from him and have him looking like a lame ass simp. Same applies to his lying ass girl in this situation. Fuckin with a man's pride, money and woman can be a dangerous endeavor. Now, unfortunately, he's gonna have to distance himself from 1 of you. The game dictates he should drop the chick. That's the G move. But he's been with her for two years now, she has a pussy, and it seems like he loves her if he's getting all emotional about what happened. Plus, this is real life. Not a Rap song. You probably just lost a really good friend (at least for now).

He’s the one in the wrong, technically
You don’t fuck w/ur boy’s ex

@ACTIVATE SELF Yo while we're on this subject though..

you're not tryna get with a girl a homie smashed previously? I hear that. of course I hear that on some level. but we're not 16 out here anymore, I mean come the fuck on bruh...

we live in small hoods, theres bound to be someone you know in some way that's had altercations with your girl previously. its just gonna happen. lets not pretend our own shit don't stink and we're not putting it out there to whichever female may want it. i served dick to dozens. theres plenty ppl just in city I live in right now I come across that I've fucked in some way.

that's just the nature of the game.

you fish in one spot, you catch fish that's mouths been hooked before yo.

but you're right in some respects, if @MMLP dating a bitch thats already tasted my dick, im letting him know from the jump

I assume by “from the jump” you mean “the moment he kisses her”

You fish bro?

lmao I'm married, my rod is rarely polished these days

Idk, bro. The thought of me going to a BBQ or a get together knowing someone that I consider a friend deviled my women isn't gonna sit well with me. Mostly because me and my boy(s) are all very competitive. I couldn't live with the mental imagery or the "thot" of knowing he got one up on me. However, if the chick is truly special anything is possible. But off the strength of loyalty and respect I would expect that both he and the girl would let it be known (if it weren't already public knowledge) before I decided to go down the path of titles and exclusive commitment. Hiding their hookup initially and then me finding out later (or on my own) would only make me question both of their integrity. Of course, all of what I'm saying only applies in a "girlfriend" type of scenario. If it's a random chick then there would never be a need for him to explain.

Day 1 Convo:

"Yo, bro. I'm just gonna throw it out there. Me and 'ol girl hooked up."

"Did you smash?"

"Yeah...she a good girl tho (OR she a thot. You should dump that etc..)."

Finny,

Of course you should of said something from the gate, but your a trash person so I’m not surprised.

But you let the time pass.

In that time you should had the smarts to realize this was going to happens, but again your a trash person so I don’t blame you too much.

You should of realized off rip you should of told him especially since you “work” with here on and off?

So you didn’t do that.....


now You gotta look for a new dealer

What kind of 14 year old intervention is this?

Lol I thought he knew. Plus, it was a decade ago. Him and I weren't friends then, and I've only really been knowing him like this for the past 2-3 years. We're good friends, that's why I thought he already knew because he never brought it up before.